I definitely don’t believe I am the wisest counselor.  I admit that sometimes when I am sitting in the counseling office listening to someone share their struggles, I am praying hard for God to give me something to say to them that is meaningful and helpful to their situation.  However, every once in awhile, I actually say something profound! Like any profound morsel of truth, mine tend to get repeated in counseling sessions regularly.  I always say that my most profound statement to people who are seeking counsel is this, “If nothing changes, nothing changes.”

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You have surely heard it said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.  It is amazing to me the number of people who will pay good money to talk to a counselor about their struggles and then go on living and behaving the same way they always have.  In truth, talking about a struggle over and over again without effecting any change actually makes the situation worse, breeding feelings of failure and hopelessness. 

Why is change so hard for people?  I would like to suggest four possibilities.  If you have a troubling behavior, relationship or attitude, think about whether one of these four things is keeping you from really changing.

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